Music Men Frustration
Why?! Why is it that so many male musicians (Actually, artists in general) are so incredibly introverted? I was sitting around with 'the guys' last night (maybe it was the night before, I'm not sure.), and somehow the conversation turned to their personalities. There's more to everyone than what appears on the surface, but some people keep a part of them buried within themselves so deep it's difficult to see. For the sake of privacy, I'll refer to the guys as Red (if you've seen that 70's show, you know what I mean.), Byers (like the lone gunmen, the one in the suit), and Tristan (like from legends of the fall, the one Brad Pitt played.). I'm sure the comparison helps you better understand the personality types. The one I'm referring to is 'Tristan'. I do not understand why it is that so many people can look at a person like this and see just the surface. I completely understand that this surface image is what this individual wants people to see, but unlike most people, this type of person speaks with their eyes and body language instead of their voice. That's where their opinion is, in their eyes and not on their lips. These types of people are extremely talented, but allow fear of both failure and success to keep them in a never ending cycle, moving neither backward or forward. I believe that most of the time, pain and fear is what causes this type of communication; old pain and constant fear that they won't be accepted for who they are. They seem to put up this macho front to protect the softer side of themselves (because they'd actual give you the shirt off their back if they thought you needed it.), and they seem to be under the impression that no one understands them. *Newsflash.* Some people understand better than most, and the ones that do are the last ones you'd expect to. If there are any of you out there ( you know who you are), please, listen carefully: Sometimes, not making a decision is worse than making the wrong one. Not expressing your opinion is worse than a disagreement. Your opinions are valuable. Not everyone can and/or will understand you, but isn't it better to speak your mind and find the people that you can communicate with than sit idly by and 'make do' with the company of people that bore you to death?
There are those out there that do value your opinion and Do care about you, whether or not you want to admit it. And if you let them, they can show you more understanding and compassion than you thought them capeable of.
